If you’ve read Nigel Slater’s book, Toast: The Story of a Boy’s Hunger, then you’ll know how food is a metaphor for love.
In it, he talks about how his mum had always given the kids the better, less-burnt pieces of toast. This kind of love may be the most motherly thing to do but it extends to relationships too.
One woman shared the same simple but powerful message that her grandfather taught her about maintaining a successful relationship; ‘Give them the better toast’, he said.
Blogger Jillian Benfield shared an image of golden and burnt slices of toast on her Facebook, recalling her grandad’s words.
Talking about her grandparents, who have been happily married for over 50 years, she shared his secret to a successful relationship.
‘Well, if there are two pieces of toast, and one looks better than the other, I give her the better toast,’ he said.
The analogy really resonated with Jillian who felt it’s a strong metaphor about the way we should treat our partners.
‘Maybe it really is that simple. In the stress of running a house, working jobs, and raising kids, our spouses can often get the worse of us. When we have nothing left, we tend to feed ourselves instead of each other.
‘But what if we give our husbands and wives the better portion of what we do have? What would happen if we offer up the better toast, the bigger dinner helping, the better wine pour, the first shower, the last piece of cake, the best spot on the couch?
‘Maybe if we consistently give more of our small things, it will open up room for bigger things to grow; we’ll see more grace, more affection, and ultimately build a stronger love,’ she wrote.
‘If we put our spouses’ happiness above our own, both husband and wife get fed. Well fed people are happier people, happier people have happier marriages. I think that’s what great-grandpa meant.
‘Give them the better toast, you’ll be thankful you did.’
Other couples shared their sweet habits with their partners on the Facebook post.
One woman wrote: ‘My husband almost always gives me the first drink on a fresh opened Coke. I usually give him the last bite of any sweet treat.’
While another reflected on her relationship, saying: ‘Unfortunately it is incredibly easy, though not purposeful, to neglect each other in the daily craziness of our lives. I know I am guilty of that.
‘The distractions around us are many today. This is a wise reminder to take note of where we are in our lives periodically, there always is room for growth and improvement!’