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Story of man who was robbed by woman at a bar is being used to make an important point about victim blaming

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A man has spiralled to internet fame after he kept calling a bar to complain about a woman who supposedly scammed him out of $2,000.

After calling the bar to ask whether he could check their cameras, one barmaid decided to share the story.

She wrote: ‘This dude has been calling my bar to check the cameras because he asked a girl to put her number into his phone and she Venmo’d herself $2,000, drunk b*tches are genius.’

Pretty straightforward story right? Well, commentators on Facebook page Bitch Code, where the story was shared, decided to look at it from another perspective – through the lens of rape culture.

‘How do we even know she did it? Maybe it’s just another jealous man who has it out for her. We have to be careful with accusing women because an allegation like this could ruin her career and future. This could follow her around for life. She has a family to take care of.’


The message, reminiscent of rape apology defenses in which people make excuses for rapists and attackers, quickly inspired other people to follow suit.

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‘It’s not safe for men to go drinking in public by themselves, he really only has himself to blame for this. Maybe next time he will think ahead before making such irresponsible choices,’ wrote another person.

Some people used the story to demonstrate victim blaming and using the victim’s past to tarnish what happened to them.

‘Well if he opened up his wallet once to spend money in the past, why is he upset that he spent money here too? It’s not like his bank account is pristine,’ asked another.

The man in question, who managed to get all his money back, didn’t seem to mind all the attention and apparently thanked the barmaid for making him famous.

The post received over 47,000 likes on Facebook and many pointed out how easily women are blamed even when they’re the victim.

One person argued: ‘By the comments, it seems like men don’t like being blamed for getting robbed any more than a woman likes being blamed for rape. Imagine that.’

It’s certainly a very important message to share.


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